to highlifelover1980 :It appears my feeble attempt at a bit of humor has not been found humorous by you. So big deal. Weill, I guess it is to you - so much so that you fly off the handle in an angry outburst and personal attack.. The comment was not even directed to you. What on earth is that about? "So to speak" is a phrase commonly used to euphemistically cover a deeper meaning, in this case a more explicit sexual comment . The phrase has nothing to do with actually speaking or talking. Let's leave it at that. We're all here to enjoy the sex show.